I encourage us all to take a moment and think about the important people in our lives, and what would it be like if we no longer had access to them. What would we wished we had said? Well take advantage of today and tell them, forgive any wrongs they have committed and focus on the Positives and give the 100/0 Principle a try.
How “The 100/0 Principle” works:
"What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It’s “The 100/0 Principle.” You take full responsibility (the100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent. The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
- Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
- Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
- Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying) to affect you. In other words, don’t take the bait.
- Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don’t respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return." (1)
This may strike you as strange, but here’s the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well.
Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Larry Dawson
Bovie Medical
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1: Excerpted from The 100/0 Principle: The Secret of Great Relationships
